Standing on My Own Two Feet: A Child's Affirmation of Love in the Midst of Divorce Hardcover – Import, 12 June 2008
Meeting a real need, this is an excellent choice for the preschool set. -- Kirkus
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- Publisher : Price Stern Sloan (12 June 2008)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 32 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0843132213
- ISBN-13 : 978-0843132212
- Reading age : 3 - 7 years
- Item Weight : 335 g
- Dimensions : 23.57 x 0.84 x 23.57 cm
- Best Sellers Rank: #101,522 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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My boyfriend and his ex-wife share 50/50 custody of their 6 year old son. His ex moved out of state 2 years ago (with her fiancé) and their son lives primarily with us. Their son will often request this book when he’s having “big feelings” missing his mom extra. We talk a lot about feelings in our home and the messages in this book really seem to comfort him.
In regards to helping with alienation- per the custody agreement their son just spent all summer with his mom. Before he returned she told him she was worried about him coming back because “there isn’t any COVID where mommy lives but everyone is dying in San Francisco where daddy lives”.
Awful. So awful. And she’s lying! Blatantly lying. But he’s only 6, he doesn’t read the news; and she’s his mother, so of course he believes her. He loves all of us but he was really scared and had a complete meltdown. But how do we defend ourselves without blatantly calling his mom a liar? Navigating that minefield required some mental gymnastics..
We spent a long time letting him express his feelings and concerns. He was SO angry and confused. Once he felt understood and calmed down a bit we agreed that COVID was really scary but that we had heard different information. We heard COVID was all over the world- including where mom lives. Everywhere. Not just San Francisco. And we don’t know anyone who’s died- not even anyone who’s gotten sick (thankfully). So SOME people are dying in San Francisco but not everyone. But more importantly... “Remember My Two Feet? What does is say about moms and dads? When you’re with them... you are safe. Your parents will keep you safe. That’s their job. When you’re with mom and her fiancé you’re safe AND when you’re with dad and me you’re safe. COVID is super scary but we will keep you safe.”
You are safe- that connected with him. I could see him relax. He knows this book and I think being reminded of an affirmation that’s been comforting him for 2+ years definitely helped ground him and bring him back to reality. At least a little bit.
Side note, if you’re looking for an adult book about navigating separate houses Mom’s House, Dad’s House by Isolina Ricci and Putting Children First by JoAnne Pedro-Carroll are good resources.
If things are more contentious (alienation or brainwashing is a concern) I’d suggest Divorce Poison by Dr. Richard Warshak.