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Joan Phraner

This is a favorite in my house!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 10 March 2017

I read this to my 6 year old to help reinforce his own personal awareness with topics that he struggles with or to help prevent a struggle due to his ADHD. Being aware of what we need to work on is the first step to making changes and hopefully by doing this we can prevent our children from future frustrations and disappointments within themselves. It is easier to mold them into respectful, responsible children at a younger age than it will be to break bad habits later on in life. With that said this book is one of many that we read as our "self help" kinda books. Every night I choose 1 book to add to the mix of his own book choices, depending on what I am trying to make him aware of and teach him coping skills in regards to things he struggled with that day or week. I hope this list is helpful. I know I always LOVE finding someone’s review that lists more great books on these kind of topics as I am always looking for more resources!
This is a list of a few of my personal favorites age range about 4-8

Helping kids about making good choices:
• That Rule Doesn't Apply to Me! (Responsible Me!)
• But It's Not My Fault! (Responsible Me!)
• What Were You Thinking? Learning to Control Your Impulses (Executive Function)
• My Mouth Is a Volcano! (talking over/interrupting people)
• What If Everybody Did That? (environmental awareness)
• LarryBoy and the Foolish Fig from Faraway (making good choices when friends aren’t)
• The Berenstain Bears Show Some Respect (talking nice to others)
• The Berenstain Bears and the Trouble with Chores
• Squirmy Wormy: How I Learned to Help Myself (more autism focused)
• God, I Need to Talk to You about…. Series (very short and to the point! from child’s point of view)
Lying, Bad Manners, Whining, Laziness, Sharing, Stealing, My Bad Temper, Paying Attention, Hurting Others, Disrespect, Greed, vandalism, bad words, being a bad sport, video games, bullying, cheating, homework, healthy eating.

Helping kids handle their anger:
• Mad Isn't Bad: A Child's Book about Anger (Elf-Help Books for Kids)
• I Just Don't Like the Sound of No! My Story About Accepting No for an Answer and Disagreeing the Right Way! (Best Me I Can Be) (WE LOVE THIS BOOK!!!!)
• Angry Octopus: An Anger Management Story

Helping Kids keep themselves safe: In all reality we aren’t always around to keep our kids safe, but we can give them the tools they need to handle themselves if a situation arises.
• A Little Book About Safety (teaches kids exactly what to do in case they get lost) (WE LOVE THIS BOOK!! Perfect for 3-5yr olds, special needs children, ALL CHILDREN)
Please read these books before reading them to your child ensure they are age/maturity level appropriate. I chose just a few pages here or there when my son was 4 as a preventative measure.
• An Exceptional Children's Guide to Touch: Teaching Social and Physical Boundaries to Kids (Good book to help discuss a difficult topic! I have passed this book around to many friends! Awareness is key to Prevention)
• I Said No! A kid-to-kid guide to keeping your private parts private
• My Body Belongs to Me

Helping kids Learn about God and teaching good Morals to live by (VeggieTales)
• Every Day with God: 365 Daily Devos for Boys
• Growing Day by Day: 365 Daily Devos for Boys

Helping Kids learn responsibility with money:
• Junior's Adventures: the Boxed Set
• The Berenstain Bears' Dollars and Sense
• Financial Peace Junior

Parent books: I have read over 30 books and these are the ones I liked
• Raising Boys With ADHD: Secrets for Parenting Healthy, Happy Sons (LOVE this book, great resources. I have been using it for 3 years now. It is categorized by age and the challenges that come with that age)
• Parenting Children with ADHD: 10 Lessons That Medicine Cannot Teach (APA Lifetools)
• Smart Money Smart Kids: Raising the Next Generation to Win with Money
• Driven to distraction
• The strong willed child
• Parenting isn’t for cowards (I just started reading but seem good so far)

11 people found this helpful

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Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 21 January 2015

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Wow! We've only read it once and already my daughter's behavior has improved! I can easily see how this would be a great tool for teachers, but this has worked a miracle in our family.

My daughter is only 3 but she is very headstrong and defiant. She tries to reason and backtalk and whine to get her way, and if that doesn't work she has a tantrum. Legendary tantrums. She just doesn't like the sound of no! I didn't believe for one second that this book would help us, and after reading it by myself before testing it out on her, I really thought it would be a failure because she is under the intended age group for this book.

But I did read it. And I tried to use my voice to make Saying Yes to No sound fun and worthwhile. The book uses belonging to a special club the incentive. I didn't think that would work so well for us... So when reading, I went off the story a bit to tell my daughter that it was good manners not to argue with parents and would also please me and her dad very much. She is highly motivated by the idea of gaining our approval and this worked! The rhyme in the book which tells what to do was SO helpful!

This afternoon she wanted a lollipop and my husband told her, 'No' and just as she was beginning to pitch a fit I said, "Remember RJ?" And that was all it took! She straightened up and said, "Okay." I told her, "Later, when you are calm, you can ask Daddy why you couldn't have a lollipop." And she just looked at me and goes, "Yeah. I will." I know she's already gotten it!

We're going to keep reading it and hopefully at some point she will remember on her own. She is too little to expect her to be perfectly behaved all the time but her tantrums were getting out of control. Knowing I have something I can use to help remind her is a priceless tool!

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Holly McDonald

Yes, yes, yes!!! Wonderful resource for both parents and preschool teachers

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 26 March 2015

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I have 2 children - both four years old (boy and girl). One child has already been diagnosed with ADHD and the second child is a very strong willed, independent personality. After much frustration with the interactions I was having with my children and wanting to find a better way to help them and our family as a whole, I sought advice from a child behavior interventionist. She recommended this book, as well as several of the other of the "RJ series" books from Julia Cook. While they are a bit on the pricier side, I did purchase several. My kiddos ask to read them almost daily. Reading them when they are calm, along with discussion about scenarios where they need to learn to accept no has made a significant difference in their behavior. When one of the kiddos is having some sort of a meltdown over the word "no", it's not uncommon to hear someone ask, "Are you being RJ?" It's been known to snap them out of the inappropriate behavior response more than once.
I occasionally sub in the 2 to 4 year old range at my children's' preschool. I've been known to bring in this book to read it to the class. It does seem to spur them along in the discussion of learning to accept the word "no" and even catch the children reminding their classmates to accept the word no. Thankful for resources like this that can help our children learn important social/life skills that are missing in this technology driven - instant gratification society we live in.

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Victoria

Don't like the reward part

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 12 March 2014

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I'm a child therapist and a mom with a 4 year old who does not like the sound of no! I was excited to try out this book. As I was reading it to my son, he was really engaged and really seemed to understand the concepts in the book. It was a great conversation starter for him. Then it got to the end of the book where the teacher tells the boy in the story about the "say yes to no club", where basically the boy can get his name in a drawing to win prizes if he accepts "no" as an answer from other people. I was quite disappointed! I was hoping for a tool to help kids learn about accepting no, but not just another method of bribing them into accepting no. I want my children (and children I work with in therapy) to learn about limit setting and accepting no, but I don't want to have to reward them to get them to respond appropriately. So basically the book was not something I could use as a helpful tool unless I decided to do some sort of "say yes to no" reward system like she does in the book. At one point, I tried to talk to my son about saying yes to no, like they do in the book. And his response was "Well then do I get a prize for saying yes to no?" Totally not the lesson I wanted him to take from the book.

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Not good book

Reviewed in the United Kingdom 🇬🇧 on 26 September 2019

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so many wrong things with this book, im not sure i can pour all my thoughts into one post...to start with for 11 GBP it could at least have a hard cover... then the idea in the book is just maddening to me... the dialogues are rude! The person who wrote the book is annoyed with children. There is no love, kindness, respect or time given to the child. the book is aimed at producing complaisant convinient children. Just take my answer and move on whether you like it or not... Producing material for bullies and psychiatrists... We want kids to ask questions, we want kids to learn to negotiate, we want kids to keep their core, unbroken, to face the world and keep wanting to know, to find out, to keep asking questions.There is a whole movement our there encouraging parents to use less hard NO with kids as that usually has a negtive longterm effect on communications. Papa, then mama then teacher then anybody else will just tell him no and he should take it as is... icecream? of course darling, right after dinner. R u already hungry? That is how i choose to talk to my daughter, for instance... and yes, sometimes its her way, sometimes is mine, I also choose where and when to take hard lines... will it matter in 30 min, tomorrow , in a week, in 5 years... nowadays, many adults seem to be sooo concerned with setting their boundaries with kids... what about kids boundries? When from the beginning they are broken/altered by the closest ppl he trust the most... ? Mums explonation about the sleepover is very very acceptable, but it "no means no" rude, snappy aduld nonsence that i disagree with... And then this stupid board, stupid star? He takes a no for a star on a board? What kind of goal is it? As i said, sooo many things did not resonate not only with me. I asked my husband to read, i asked 2 of my friends to read... i sent the book back, very disappointed that stuff like this even gets printed.

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OlieMo

Daughter gets the message!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 3 June 2014

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I stumbled across this book while in search for something else. The title caught my attention, because I had been struggling that week with my daughter's inability to accept being told no. She has a sensory processing disorder and ADHD and struggles to understand concepts. I thought the pictures were cute and really enjoyed reading the sample offered in the listing. At my wits end with her, I decided to order it along with several other Julia Cook books I saw in the "suggestions" section when placing the order. The book was just as cute as I expected it to be, both in pictures and storyline. My daughter really enjoyed reading it and replied, "no means no" when I asked her if she learned anything from the story. She and my son both enjoyed all the books we received, and I highly recommend Julia Cook's books for any child who may be struggling with social behaviors, emotions, and accepting things that make them unhappy. She has a book for just about every adolescent struggle you can think of!

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ScotFlower

Did not like the reward part

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 22 February 2020

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I loved the concept that kids need to say yes (ie accept) when an authority figure tells them no. They need to accept the no and then later on ask why if they really want to know why. But they are not to argue, complain, throw a tantrum or fight about a no. My issue though is the book spent way too much time focusing on a reward system in the classroom setting that does not apply easily to the home situation. I also don't like that the kid gets the smelly markers he was told no about by his father as a reward from school. I would have preferred that to stay a no and the kid to enjoy the markers he already had. So the book has good material in here, but pushing this reward system club just ruined the book for home use.

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Karen W

Good meaning behind the book

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on 4 June 2018

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Good meaning behind the book. This particular book is good for those parents who believe in the use of “no.” Not all do and only thing I wish it used more was some softer approaches to “no.” However the point of the book and what the author was trying to illustrate is well done. Basically can’t always be yes and no means no.. Again only concern is for many parenting styles that prefer to use words other than an outright “no.” Still enjoy the series and I would recommend the author.

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Heather Gordon

Wonderful tool for teaching children!

Reviewed in the United States 🇺🇸 on 20 June 2012

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I have been working very hard with my daughter who has ADD about being respectful and how to go about things the right way. Everything in this book reiterrated what I have been telling her and as she read, she would look at me funny and say something like, "it sounds like you wrote this". The pictures and fun tone of the book made what I have been telling her more concrete and we really enjoy reading it together. We have talked about reading it more than once because she says she thinks it really helps her. She can remember a story in a book more than a lecture from mom, or being told to do something so it helps her set good limits and be respectful. I have purchased more of Julia Cooks books and even though I was worried that they would be a little "young" for my daughter who just turned nine, they were written in a manner that did not seem to juvenile for her. Cook's books are an amazing tool for helping kids work through some behavior issues in a fun and positive way!

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Iris

I love this book!

Reviewed in Canada 🇨🇦 on 8 July 2019

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Hoi! (hi) I have 4 RJ books at home. This book is really useful and funny.I'll give this book a five star! RJ went to the market with his father and saw scented crayons. RJ asked his dad if he could buy it. The father said no, his mother said no to having a sleepover at Sam's house...but then he joins 'the say-yes-to-no'club. Find out more when you read it!

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